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Therapy for Perfectionism

Perfectionism is your way of outsourcing a sense of security. It can make you feel like you're never quite measuring up. You might be stuck in a loop of striving for something that you hope will bring you contentment. In therapy, we can work together to let go of those impossible standards and focus on celebrating your progress instead. You deserve to feel good about where you’re at, without the pressure of being perfect.

Therapy can be a great way to explore the pressures of perfectionism and give yourself permission to let go of unrealistic standards. It’s a space where you can talk openly about the stress of always trying to be perfect and where you learned you needed to do so in the first place. We’ll work together to shift your mindset so you can focus on progress instead of perfection, and find ways to manage the anxiety that comes with trying to do it all.

Let go of perfection and make room for growth.

  • Perfectionism often leads to stress, anxiety, and self-doubt because nothing ever feels "good enough."

  • It can keep you stuck in a cycle of overthinking and procrastination, making it harder to get things done.

  • Striving for perfection can make you overly critical of yourself and others, affecting relationships.

  • Perfectionism can make it difficult to enjoy accomplishments because you're always focused on what’s next.

  • Moving forward means learning to embrace mistakes as opportunities for growth rather than failures.

  • Letting go of perfection helps you focus on progress, which is much more sustainable and rewarding.

  • Therapy can teach you to recognize perfectionistic thinking and replace it with self-compassion and realistic expectations.

  • With practice, you’ll start to feel more at peace with who you are, just as you are, and find freedom from the pressure of perfection.

What will happen if I stop striving for perfection? Will I accomplish anything without it?

You’ll discover that you are more than enough just as you are, and you’ll feel more freedom and peace without the constant pressure to be perfect. You may even find you have more energy to pursue your passions when you’re no longer worrying about a perfect final product.

Perfectionism often comes from a good place—it's your mind’s way of trying to ensure you do your best and avoid failure. It pushes you to aim high, do things well, and not make mistakes. On the surface, it might feel like it’s helping you succeed, keeping you on track, and motivating you to reach your goals. But, in reality, it can make everything feel like a high-stakes game where the fear of not measuring up can leave you stuck in constant stress and self-criticism. It’s what I refer to as the tight-rope walk of perfectionism.

The negative impacts of perfectionism are significant. It can lead to burnout, anxiety, and a constant sense of dissatisfaction because you're never truly able to feel “good enough.” You might find yourself avoiding tasks or procrastinating because the pressure to do everything flawlessly feels overwhelming. Perfectionism can also hurt relationships, as you may be overly critical of both yourself and others, expecting unrealistic standards from both. All of this can leave you feeling exhausted, disconnected, and frustrated, even when you achieve what you set out to do.

Shifting the focus from perfection to progress can have a profound impact on your well-being. By embracing progress, you allow yourself to make mistakes, learn from them, and keep moving forward without the weight of unrealistic expectations. This mindset frees you to celebrate small wins, build confidence, and appreciate your growth along the way. Focusing on progress instead of perfection helps you approach life with more flexibility, creativity, and joy, giving you the freedom to thrive without the constant pressure to be perfect.

Embrace progress, let go of perfection, and enjoy the ride!

How therapy can help:

  • Shift your focus from flawless results to the small steps you take each day, celebrating your growth along the way.

  • Embrace mistakes as learning opportunities, knowing they’re part of the process and lead to improvement.

  • Set realistic goals and break them into manageable tasks, making progress feel more achievable and less overwhelming.

  • Practice self-compassion, acknowledging your efforts and reminding yourself that you're doing your best.

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